Living in a shared house in times of pandemic has become quite a challenge. This theory does not only apply when we talk about roommates, but to most families, that again are forced to reorganize the spaces of the house, transformed into workplaces, study, of sport, leisure and rest. And how do you survive a confinement situation again?
“Being confined can be both a blessing and a curse. In most situations, the outcome is determined by our choices: I choose to see this as an opportunity and not as an obstacle ". This statement is from Christian Santos, psychologist and founder of CS-Creating Success, who summarizes several important clues about sharing a home (or a space in the house) and what can be done to better deal with the situation.
What to do to survive home confinement?
- Have a clear communication with all the inhabitants of the house and establish rules of coexistence.
- Set privacy limits. We all need our personal space. As much as we like someone or we feel comfortable being accompanied, it is important to have moments alone and personal space. When we are locked in the same space, we can define some rules for this space to exist:
- If possible, delimits the areas of the house where each person spends more time.
- If possible, give the other space only in a comfortable place in the house for a period of time (and then change in the case of large families).
- Go out at different times to have time alone both on the street and at home.
- Respect the privacy of others. Not because we listen to all the conversations and work meetings of the other should we give an opinion on them (unless we are asked). It is important to respect the privacy of the other's communications so that their privacy is also respected.
- If you are working remotely, define the work zone . The ideal is to have an office, so if space permits, reserve a corner just to work close the door when you're done and try not to come in on weekends, how would we do at work. Faced with the impossibility of setting up an office, it is important to define a workspace at home. Avoid being the room or table where you eat. If you have to be in these spaces, try to create a separate zone. For example, you sit on one side of the table to work and on the other to eat. This will help the brain to distinguish between work and rest..
- Describe tasks and responsibilities. With the change in family dynamics and routines, what worked previously, it may not work now. Who supervises the children when they have online classes or is it done in shifts? Who makes the purchase? Who cleans and what? Who cooks? The best way to prevent domestic arguments, derived from small tasks, it is through prevention, by communication and time setting.
- Create moments of leisure and relaxation. Spending a lot of time together is not the same as spending quality time together.. "Being locked in the same house" creates a false sense of closeness . Relationships are not just about physical proximity, but of interaction and emotions. In the same way that you used to do activities on weekends, create the same routines at home, like dance classes, physical exercise, table games, watch a movie or even do a decorating project together. There are a thousand ideas on how to spend quality time with the people we live with. The important thing is to define what is a moment of leisure or a chore.
- Making the most of the situation. Having an attitude of curiosity and optimism about the situation helps you discover new facets of the people you live with, as well as acquire new habits, discover new ways of being at home, use the spaces or rediscover the neighborhood and surroundings.
- Take care and fix yourself. Not because you don't leave home that you become a "careless" person; in other words: don't work in your pajamas. You may not dress like you're going to work, but you can take care of your appearance and physical condition. A quick shower works miracles, like wearing clothes that tell your brain that you are in work mode.
- Maintain sleep routines. Our sleep cycle regulates our mood, that is why it is very important that you stay constant and healthy.
- Finally, if conflict arises or if you have gray days, remember that everything is temporary and choose the battles that are worth fighting. You may not control what happens in the world, but you can control your reaction to what happens in their world.